Sunday, March 05, 2006

A special day

Today is a special day - for many reasons. It's my birthday for one - but more importantly it's the last one I'll spend not being a mum.
My darling husband presented me with a most precious card and gift this morning (not something he often does!). He gave me a beautiful card that spoke of my last birthday not being a mum and of the mum he believed I would be and his gift to me was one of the "Willow Tree" series called "Angel of mine - so loved, so very loved". It's a carved figure of a mother and baby -I cried - and so did Graham. I have looked at these figures so often and longed for one (I've given many as gifts!) - but never wanted to buy one for myself. Who more special to give me one? I'm so touched and so grateful to have a man like I do in my life.

On to the adoption - It's been a challenging start to the year with mixed news about the timeline for adoptions - I thought I'd take the time to explain the process because so many are asking me what is going on.
Once our file was received in China we got a Log In Date (LID) - from here on, that is the most important date for us. Once in China, our file moves into the review room at some point, where it stays for some 1-2 months, and then it moves to the matching room. It is in the matching room that we are allocated a child and soon after we are advised we have been allocated. At this stage there are 2 batches ahead of us - we're Vic Batch 22 and there are still Vic Batches 20 and 21 to be allocated. In the last few weeks, the China Centre for Adoptive Affairs put on their website that "all files received in China with a LID of June 05 had been reviewed and that they had finished the allocation of children for the families whose adoption application documents were LID before May 25, 2005."
Soon after that notice was put on the CCAA website (approx 24th Feb) allocations started to come through. Unfortunately Batch 20 (Victoria) missed out by about 8 days. Their LID was 2nd June 05. The CCAA site still says the same and all of us waiting are regularly checking for those dates to change. Rumour has it that all files with a July LID have now been moved to the matching room and all files LID August are in the review room. IF this is true - we could be a June/July allocation - if it isn't true, who knows. My heart crys for those in Victoria Batch 20 - to miss out by such a few days.
The good news has been that friends we have made in the adoption process - Leanne & Hao Cheng - have been allocated. They were actually behind us in the process (LID 26th September), but because Hao is from Chinese descent, their file was what is termed "expedited", which means they get allocated earlier. I couldn't be happier for them. I cried as I read their post and the joy they were feeling. A tiny 8 month old baby daughter - Lei Jin Shi - I can't wait to see photo's. It helps so much to have any allocations coming through - there is so much joy coming out of the "posts" on the Families with Children from China (FCC) site that it really helps me to keep focussed on what is ahead for us.

So that is where we are at on this day - I'm heading out to do some gardening and then we're going to a BBQ with some of our China "batch buddies" as we call ourselves 'cause we're all travelling to China together and some other friends we went through the process with who are adopting from Ethopia.

Friday, February 10, 2006

Staying focussed!


I never knew it would be SO difficult. Waiting is much harder than I expected, although it's more trying to stay focussed on today! We haven't heard anything, and at this stage there are still 2 Victorian "batches" ahead of us. I haven't lost hope for June/July - but we just don't know. I said to some people yesterday - the way I feel is like being about 8 months pregnant and anticipating and beginning to dream of life in it's new form - and then being told you actually have another 4-6 months of pregnancy ahead (I'm sure the girls can relate!).

Anyway - I'm doing everything I can to stay focussed on each day and to enjoy the time we have together before little Ebony arrives. Also trying NOT to be too busy!

So no concrete news - just some feelings......and hopefully a photo's of Ebony's room too!

Sunday, January 29, 2006

Well - I've never been very good at keeping secrets......
We've decided on the name "Ebony Grace" for our daughter! I had a huge list of names - which I didn't think would happen - then I came across a photo of little friend of mine from some years ago and her name was Ebony. I mentioned it to Graham and he felt really comfortable with it! The second name bears no explanation I'm sure.
It's Saturday today and we've just finished painting half the inside of our home. We started early in January. Ebony's room is done and it's just wonderful. I'll try and post a photo when I can.
The journey to Ebony is slowing down a bit - it seems the China program is becoming very popular and the result is longer waits. Although I felt a bit frustrated at first - I've settled back into accepting it and am just enjoying preparing our home for the arrival of this precious little girl. I'm probably not bubbling over in the same way I was at Christmas time, but I know that time will come again. We're expecting to receive allocation (this will be when we get a copy of her file including a photo) in approximately May and then we'll travel about 7 weeks later.
I'll keep you posted!
Jen

Sunday, January 01, 2006

2006 is finally here!

Now it’s finally arrived! The year we will bring our daughter home to live with us. I can’t describe the excitement I feel. I’m going to be a Mum! Here’s what I wrote in the early hours of Christmas Eve morning in the form of an email to the FCC (Families with Children from China) group:

[Hello everyone - here I am wide awake at 3.45 in the morning! Just thinking and dreaming of what next Christmas will be like. It has been a journey of some 25 years where there has been so much pain, surgery, invasive procedures, tears and frustration and now I sit here and can truly contemplate a year ahead when I will actually become a "Mum". It's hard to comprehend, yet I feel like my whole life has led me to this place. Finally I'm allowing myself to feel excited and it's the most wonderful feeling. This is the first Christmas for so, so many years, that I can feel real, deep, unexplainable joy and it's the most wonderful feeling. I can't even imagine what it will feel like when we see the photo of the child that has been chosen for us - the one that I know will be worth every moment of the wait. So here's to all my friends out there in FCC land - no matter what stage you are at - and there are many. The time is coming - and it will be here before we know it. To the first time Mums (& Dads), the second time Mums (& Dads) and the Mums (& Dads) in waiting - have a beautiful Christmas either with your precious family or whilst you are waiting with eager anticipation. Bless you all for your incredible wisdom and support - I don't think I could have done this journey as well without you - as a matter of fact, I know I couldn't have! Jen (& Graham) Boote Batch 22 3.55am 24/12/2005]

Welcome to 2006 my precious daughter – wherever you are - I know you are alive and waiting somewhere and I’m feeling REALLY alive and desperately waiting for you!....oh! and by the way - we've decided on a name! but it's a secret for the time being........

Thank you God for Your faithfullness to us . Without You, none of this would be possible.

Friday, November 18, 2005

Us at the Grand Canyon on Gra's birthday 21/10/05

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The beginning


It doesn't really matter how we came to be at this point - we haven't been able to have children and it's been a long and hard journey. In May 2004 I had lunch with a special friend of mine, who has shared some of my infertility struggles through her own difficult journey. She and her husband were leaving to move to overseas in a matter of weeks. When we talked, she mentioned something about adoption. I had talked about this in the past, but Graham just wasn't ready. The conversation with my girlfriend started and finished and I didn't think much more about it until, a couple of weeks later, Graham and I were in Bali and it came to my mind. I mentioned it to Graham and all of a sudden - he was ready! As soon as we arrived home, I went into action and found the next Inter-Country Adoption Information Session was on the 2nd August (which was about 2 months away). We registered - went along - and nothing has been the same since. We both knew China was the best choice for us - not that we had many because of our ages - particularly Graham's. So we started the long process of paperwork - medicals and cheques! We were required to do our life stories - mine ended up about 19 pages and Gra's was about 13. It was a lot of work. Through a miracle, we were able to get into Education Sessions a little earlier than normally possible - so this part of the process was over by early December 2004. As soon as Education sessions were over, we had to do our Country Project. I really enjoyed this part - although we were under quite a bit of pressure to get everything done and in by Christmas. It happened. By the end of April we had completed our 4 Social Worker visits and were told we would be recommended to adopt. We were relieved and thrilled. Then more paper work and finally on 3rd August 2005 our file left for China and we became part of Batch 22. We have 3 other couples from our Education Sessions - Col & Mandy, Ruth & Chris and Kate & Jim - along with Richard and Wendy and a very brave single - Vicky. Now we wait! Our "batch" met all together on the 6th November - which was really exciting. We took 4+ weeks in Sept/Oct and travelled over to British Colombia/San Francisco/New York/ Niagara Falls/Chicago/Miami/Grand Canyon/Los Angeles. We had such an incredible time - our last trip together with just the 2 of us! Graham's letting me pick a name (we're fairly sure we'll get a girl) - so I'm working through that issue - and contemplating the nursery. We've been given some furniture - which has been such a blessings. So that's it in a nutshell to date - keep posted for more!

Thursday, November 17, 2005

Our Journey to our daughter in China

This is the story of our journey to our adopted daughter in China. The journey so far has been a rocky one with lots of bends and obstacles throughout the years - but we know it will all be worthwhile. Our names are Jen and Graham and we live in Montrose - Victoria - Australia. Most of the posts will be of Jen's thoughts and feelings throughout the weeks and months ahead. We're glad you have joined us and pray you enjoy our journey.

"We asked the Lord to give us this child, and He has given us our request. Now we are giving her to the Lord, and she will belong to the Lord her whole life" 1 Samuel 1:27,28